Where Do You Get Your Self Esteem?

Instead of looking for self-esteem in what you own, look for it in what you do.
 
My friend has several home improvement projects in mind and was worried about which one to choose and what it would cost. I asked her “Why are these choices important to you?” and she said, “I need them to boost my self esteem.” Where do you get your self-esteem? 
 

Self-esteem comes from within

It’s not about the power suit or the great hair cut – those may be confidence builders, but self-esteem is about what you think about yourself.  It’s about how much you love yourself, how good a person you try to be.  Self-esteem comes with how you conduct yourself. It comes from the choices you make and how you show up in your world.  Your feelings of self-worth come from within.  Your self-respect comes only from how you perceive yourself. Can you look in your mirror and say, “I love you.”? 
 

Don’t be fooled by the outer trimmings

Have you ever met someone who presented a good image but wasn’t a very nice person to know?  All the trappings in the world won’t make that person more likeable.  Are all pretty people likeable?  Are all unattractive people unlikeable?  Of course not.  It’s what’s within that counts.  The size of your house or the quality of your clothes are just trimmings.  The important “you” is in your smile, your kind eyes and your appreciative laughter.  How is your inside showing up on the outside? 
 

How can you increase your self-worth?

Money, or the lack of it, can be a great leveler.  I know a community of retired senior women who live their lives with very little money. Their apartments are all the same size; their incomes are all about the same as in not very much, so they are valued for their friendships, their common interests and their contributions to their community.  What they do or don’t own is totally irrelevant to who they are. You can improve your feelings of self-worth by acknowledging the gifts of others, by helping those around you, by being kind and helpful, and by acknowledging the gifts of their being that every person brings to you. 
 

How do you show up in your world?

If the Universe started giving out gold stars, it wouldn’t be for the furniture in your house or the clothes on your back.  It would be for what you do for others, how you respond to them, how you support them, how you laugh and love with them.
 
You are perfect just the way you are and who you are and what you do is much more important to others than the paint job on your house.
 
© 2012 Cara Lumen

 

What If You Simply Moved It From Here to There?

magicianI just learned an important lesson about the value of looking at what you have from different angles.  On the physical plane, it involved the interchange of three pieces of furniture.  In my business, it applies to ideas I already have and how I might reposition them.

Do you already have what you need?

I wanted a microwave cart.  It would free up counter space and make my kitchen a lot more efficient.  I looked on line and I looked in stores.  I kept focusing on the fact that I wanted a microwave cart. 

One day I looked more consciously at what I already had.  Within minutes, I had the solution.  It involved rearranging three pieces of furniture. A baker’s rack that held the television became the microwave stand.  The bookcase that had been in the kitchen moved to the living room to hold the plants that had been on the third table involved in this swap. Then I moved that plant table to hold the television.  And presto I had a new look and a new level of efficiency. I was very proud of myself.  I had solved my problem without spending any money.  And I had my “new” microwave cart.

What do you have in place in your home or in your business or even in your life that you simply need to move to a new location or put to a different use?

Move one thing and see what it opens up.

What do you need next?  Where does it fit?  What is its new function?

Let’s say your next step is that you want to learn to give a telecourse.  That’s the function – for you to learn how to create, market and present a compelling telecourse.  What do you already teach/coach/know that can be turned into a short course that will add value to your community while it allows you the opportunity to learn how to create a compelling teleclass?  Keep it simple.  Start with a one or two session course.  Schedule it.  Write the landing page. Create it. Make your Power Points. Create your handouts.  Set up your shopping cart. If you keep it small, you’ll learn the steps without being overwhelmed by the process. Keep your initial objective in mind. You want to learn to create, promote and teach a powerful telecourse.

What do you need to reposition?

As I moved my three pieces of furniture, I had a lot of put-abouts and books to rearrange. When you make a new choice take that opportunity to rethink and reposition everything you keep. Do you need to present an idea in a different format?  If you give a telecourse, do you have time to write another ebook?  What blog posts need to become videos or ebooks or part of a course? 

Do you need to take a big idea and chunk it down into smaller pieces?  Do you need to figure out something by writing a blog post about it?  Do you need to reposition one product for different markets?  What tweak can you make in what you already have going on that will create something new?

Give an idea a different function 

Just as my baker’s rack went from holding my television to providing a new home for my microwave, you can make some important changes simply by changing the function of an idea or product. You can write an ebook as an opt in offer then expand it into a series of ebooks.  You can write a telecourse and then expand to an advanced course on the same topic. One of my teleclasses expanded into an eight-book ebook series.  You can take information you teach and turn it into coaching handouts.  You can write articles and make videos that teach a specific step.  Look around.  How can you fill a current need simply by moving something from here to there?

© 2012 Cara Lumen

 

Become Your Own Teacher

red-laptopLearning is about understanding a concept well enough to apply it to your own life..  Learning is about growth. It’s about deepening our understanding, owning what we learn and using it to make our lives more meaningful. We are our own teachers.  We choose the curriculum that takes us where we want to go. 
 

Let your passion be your guide

I would love to be home schooled today.  I would be free to explore whatever excites me. I would be free to develop my unique talents. I could spend as much time as I wanted delving into any subject that stirred my passion.  I could learn as much as I wanted to, or as little as I wanted to.  Someone, somewhere on the internet is teaching what you want to know.
 

Apply that knowledge to your life and business

There is usually a specific purpose in your search for knowledge.  You want to make some changes in your own life.  You want to learn a new skill. You want to create more value for your target community.  You want to find a way to become more involved in a cause you believe in.  When I learn a new skill, I often turn it into a book to share with others. My blog posts reflect my curiosity, my discoveries and my passion. Apply what you learn and share it with others.
 

Let the insights find you

All sorts of things spark my imagination. As I read the blog posts of others, I am often inspired to explore a topic more deeply.  I write my interpretation of the topic.  I explore my experiences with an idea.  I create a new approach to creating something that I then teach others. Knowledge is everywhere.  It is in the conversations we have, the idea we develop and the need to know more that is with us always.
 

What do you need to learn next?

Search for both motivational and practical learning opportunities.  Do I need to improve my writing skills or do I need to learn how to format an e book?  If I want to teach a telecourse, what do I want participants to learn and how do I want to deliver it? Do I have to learn the back end of a webinar software or do I need to focus on my delivery technique?  Build on what you already know and learn the skills and concepts that take you to the next level.
 

Create your own learning plan

Divide your time into large three-month segments and set one major learning goal for each quarter.  Then outline what you want to learn every week and how you might go about doing that.  It may be that you need to learn sound editing software or how to publish your book on ereaders. It may be that you need to learn how to give a better talk or make your own videos. You can always improve a skill set.  It may be that you need to do more research on a topic you want to master. Whatever steps you need to take to complete your project, schedule them and learn what you need to create the result you want to achieve.
 

Uncover new resources

If you look, you will find it. There are tons of free telecourses on line. Sign up for those that teach you what you need to know next. Thoughtful bloggers supply insights on both practical and philosophical concepts.  Find a few bloggers and follow them. Spend a portion of your day reading more on your topic of interest from sources.
 

Be a life-long learner

There are discouraging statistics about the number of people who don’t read books as adults and who don’t learn anything new after they leave school. You’re not one of those people because you are reading this article.  You are a life-long learner.  You are curious. You are an independent thinker. You are constantly exploring new concepts. You keep up with change even if it takes a bit of extra study.  Be curious.  Be aware.  Be thoughtful.
 

Apply what you learn

Learn what you need and want to know and then apply it. Apply it creatively. Apply it instinctively.  Apply it organically.  Teach others to use what you have learned and help them achieve their own unique results.
 

Learn what you need and want to know

Go exploring. Let your intellectual travels open up new paths you’ve never been on before.  Take your own unique collection of knowledge and make something special to offer others.  Write your own curriculum.  Revel in what you learn and go out and share your excitement with others. You are your own teacher.  Be a good one.
 

© 2012 Cara Lumen